Like all other countries, binding a man and a woman in a sacrosanct matrimony is held in a festive mood in Bangladesh. Families of both sides try utmost to make this event a memorable one for the couple. To follow the traditions and incorporate a few unique ideas of their own, the planners have to go through a tedious process and a myriad of rituals.
The Bangladeshi marriage is comprised of four parts: engagement, “Gaye Holud”, wedding ceremony and the reception.The matchmaker who goes by the name of “Ghotok”, plays a pivotal role in bringing two families under the same roof by coming up with detailed info about both sides. After the matchmaking, the engagement takes place where “paan” wrapped up in silver foils are served as a gesture, and the bride and the groom exchange rings. Then comes the “Gaye Holud” ceremony which takes place separately for the bride and the groom and they are left with a veneer of turmeric on their face. Friends of the bride and groom perform preordained and practiced dances on this occasion. Finally, comes the ceremony where the bride and groom tie the knot religiously.There’s a tradition of creating a blockade at the gate by the groom’s near ones and extracting money from the bridegroom.The ambiance to this extravagant occasion is a sight to behold.The bride officially leaves her parents’ house after this night by vowing to protect each other in health and sickness.Followed by the ceremony comes the “Bou bhaat” arranged by the bride’s family. The newlyweds are showered with gifts and some of the invited guests get to see them together for the first time.
There are some salient traits of wedding throughout different regions.Let’s get to know some of the popular ones.
The Chatgaiyans don’t abide by the food code.They serve their own special item “Mezbaan” and “Murgi musallam” with biriyani. Other than that, they seem to go along with the tradition. The guest list seems to be a bit long though because of their reputed hospitality.
The Hindu weddings in Sylhet have a ritual called “Fira-Jatra”.Eight days after the wedding, the bride visits the groom’s house and spend a couple days. They open the “Gatbandhan” and indulge themselves in relentless feasting.
Usually, the “Ai buro bhaat” where the bride-to-be has her last feast with her family, isn’t held around here.The food list is somewhat same while some tend to serve plain rice instead of biriyani.
These intricacies and subtleties of the whole wedding are what makes this look so colorful.Wedding ceremonies are something to look out for in our country.